Wife just wont give me a bj. I should not be this frustrated over it but i am.?

She shouldn't do anything that she doesn't want to do, ually, and neither should you. There are things that I will and wont do, and I would really resent someone pressuring me. You are pressuring her with the notion that you do things that you don't like, so should she. I don't think she is pressuring you to perform on her, is she? You really need to stop doing this, its bad for the relationship.